DEAR ABBY: I’ve a handyman doing work on my dwelling. I observed that when he makes use of the toilet, he’s in there some time and going No. 2.
My nervousness ranges are via the roof. Do I inform him something, and what ought to I say?
NERVOUS LADY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR LADY: Could I share a truism? Once we gotta go, we gotta go. In case your handyman leaves the toilet in the identical situation when he exits as when he goes in there, you don’t have anything to be “anxious” about.
Be gracious, and whenever you want a handyman there’ll all the time be somebody prepared that can assist you.
DEAR ABBY: My co-worker takes benefit of our employer’s beneficiant sick depart coverage and calls in sick ceaselessly.
She’s going to return the following day with no outward signal of sickness and has, on a number of events, returned with a recent haircut and manicure. When she’s at work, she ceaselessly steps away from her desk for private calls.
I lastly stated one thing to our supervisor as a result of I really feel taken benefit of.
Having labored on this workplace for greater than 10 years, I do know the work inside and outside, so I can do my work — and hers — with ease. I truly like my co-worker, however I really feel she’s taking me as a right. Our supervisor had a chat together with her, however it didn’t assist.
Would it not be unreasonable for me to have a frank dialogue together with her straight? I foresee that it might trigger a cool reception, however I’m shedding persistence.
DEAR CO-WORKER: It’s not unreasonable to talk with this co-worker, however what have you ever to realize by confronting her and what do it’s important to lose? If it should trigger a frostier work atmosphere, don’t do it.
A greater resolution can be to cease doing her work for her. Having to face the results of slacking could give her an incentive to vary her methods.
DEAR ABBY: My husband of a few years is gorgeous and candy each morning, however after ingesting, which he does daily beginning at 4 or 5 o’clock, his character modifications.
I’ve to be extraordinarily cautious of each phrase I say or I would be the recipient of his sarcasm and/or anger, so I’m anxious and apprehensive each night till he goes to sleep, which, thankfully, could be very early.
Within the morning he expects me to be glad and cheerful as if nothing went on the night time earlier than. I’ve tried to debate this with him, however it doesn’t assist. After years of this, I’ve change into depressed and would actually respect your recommendation.
AT WITS’ END IN FLORIDA
DEAR AT WITS’ END: You might be married to an alcoholic. Marriage to a verbally abusive alcoholic would make anyone depressed! I can solely marvel why you will have chosen to tolerate this for thus lengthy.
The trail towards an answer to your downside would begin with finding the closest Al-Anon assembly and attending a few of them. In case you do, you will see the help and enable you to are on the lookout for. You will discover a close-by assembly by visiting al-anon.org/data.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.